Over the past year I've had the privilege of watching a miracle grow!
Melanie and Steven Dorey had a home full of love and joy and were so excited to grow their family by bringing children in to the world! Their life was good and they had it all, until they encountered some complications near the end of Melanie's pregnancy with their first daughter. From there it was a series of twists and turns, highs and lows, mourning and joy that brought them to where they are now.
Here is their story!
'Is this real life? I ponder how extremely blessed I am to have these two beautiful children in my life. After a few minor issues during my first pregnancy, I delivered my little girl early due to pre-eclampsia. Over the next week, this medical concern had me in the hospital as my high blood pressure could not be lowered. I was then readmitted to the hospital one day after our release with endometritis, which first had doctors very concerned as it presented itself as sepsis. I spent those weeks hoping that I would be able to go home soon to some normalcy and enjoy my brand new baby girl and life as a new mom.
Little did I know what I was about to face. A few months later came a telephone call that changed my life—my midwife told me that I had abnormal cells on my cervix which may mean something terrible. I never had abnormal paps before and was always getting them done on time, so I tried to focus on those points to settle my mind during the waiting period.
Then came the few months of surgeries to become fully diagnosed with cervical cancer. I had a full radical hysterectomy and bilateral salpingectomy seven months postpartum. After a short rest over Christmas and a short recovery time I underwent IVF treatments as I needed to preserve my fertility before my chemotherapy and radiation were set to begin.
I was spared from these further treatments, thankfully, and not long after that we met an incredible woman who gave us the greatest gift we could ever dream of—gestational surrogacy and the opportunity to give my daughter a sibling. Our embryo (my egg and my husband's sperm) was implanted in her womb just a little less than a year ago. And in August, we were blessed with another baby—a true miracle!
Since he was born, the past three months have brought on two more different cancer concerns and two operations, but my two precious children have brought me so much joy in the process and have comforted my soul. There is not a day that goes by where I do not feel extremely grateful for having them in my life, and all of these events have been a small price to pay.'
"I feel extremely grateful and privelaged to have been blessed with this. It is very unique to have given birth naturally and now to have a surrogate give birth to my child and I feel so incredibly blessed to have all of these experiences come my way. Even though this came from a very dark place in my life, when I was diagnosed, I feel like I needed to go through that to get to where I am today." – Melanie
Steven added on 'it was the most difficult thing I've ever experienced in my life, I never thought that at my age we would ever have to contemplate her mortality or picture my life without Melanie, or raising my daughter without her. We got good news later on that things were looking good for her, possibly the best news that I've ever gotten in my life, but we always wanted a bigger family and we felt like we had that choice taken away from us, which was also extremely difficult. When we found out that we had some options and that Tammy was willing to be a surrogate for us, was again, probably one of the best pieces of news I've gotten in my life.'
They say that it is better to give than to receive and in this situation, I believe that Tammy Fingal would agree. She is a wife, mom to 3 and dedicated nurse who chose to put others before herself and gave Melanie and Steven the gift of life by becoming their surrogate. Read along as Tammy shares why she decided to become a surrogate and how much this experience has meant to her.
'The biggest reason I decided to become a surrogate is my own children. I have been so incredibly blessed with my own children and I remember what it is like to want to be a mother. My heart aches for women who are going through infertility, or for whatever reason can't have children. I can't imagine what they are going through! I went in to this with the intention of helping someone else have what I already have. This is something I wanted to do for the love of babies and helping someone to have this amazing experience of motherhood.'
"It's amazing to be part of growing a life, it's just incredible and I am so happy for them! I would hope that if I was ever in a situation where this was the only means that I could bring my children in to the world that someone would do this for me." – Tammy
Melanie, Steven, Elodie, Nathaniel and Tammy—thank you so much for opening your hearts to share your story with us! I adore you all and am so grateful I've had the opportunity to watch this beautiful story unfold.
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